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Being a Mother From a Distance

Being a Mother From a Distance

Beginning each blog about this topic is tough.  The voices in my head strike up their noise.  How did I end up here?  Has it been going on this long?  How much longer will it be?  Will I survive it?  How will this time and distance effect my daughter?  Will she ever be able to understand?  Being a mother from a distance is the worst. Being a mother from a distance is the last thing I ever planned to do. …

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Keep Smiles Simple

Keep Smiles Simple

Keep smiles simple creating a new family tradition, Yes Day! Smiles are simple.  Simple and powerful.  Seeing a smile on a child’s face is one of the best feelings.  Seeing happiness in children expressed by a smile can eliminate all the dreariness of the world while it shines.  Kids these days are harder (and more expensive) to please than ever.  How do we get beyond their craving for electronics and media and give them something else that will make them…

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Lego Have A Merry Christmas

Lego Have A Merry Christmas

Do your children have tons of toys already? Do you wish there was a way to revitalize their thrill for playing with them? Well, Lego have a merry Christmas.  Holiday seasons come to many of us with joy and challenges. Having children in the mix can harbor the same feelings. Children make Christmas truly merry and, depending on what they ask for, equally challenging. It’s difficult to keep spending in check this time of year. Whether you’re short on funds…

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It Don’t Hurt Like It Used To

It Don’t Hurt Like It Used To

  Any country music fans out there?  I am so in love with the single by Billy Currington, It Don’t Hurt Like It Used To.  Another song about sadness and strength following a breakup.  It touches a part of my heart that has nothing to do with a typical heartbreaking breakup, like the song ruminates on.  Then again, maybe it does. It don’t hurt like it used to.  A hurt heart is mending and moving on.  Typical theme of breakup…

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Life After Losing Custody

Life After Losing Custody

I was recently asked on my other page how I live.  How do I live without my child?  How do I go on after losing a custody battle?  The truth is, one day at a time. One painful day at a time. A day at a time.  I was never like that before.  I was a planner.  A worrier.  A total type A. Becoming a parent wasn’t enough to change my approach to life.  I stayed in control and managed all the curve…

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Every Given Sunday — Losing A Child Through A Custody Battle

Every Given Sunday — Losing A Child Through A Custody Battle

This experience does not have a place in this world. For the parent or the child. Joint custody exchanges.  A child is passed from home to home like a ping pong ball.  Constantly on the move.  An itinerant travelling through a revolving door.  The vision of that brings me to tears.  My daughter at the mere age of 3 began her route through the revolving door.  Sunday she passed through off to Dad’s and Wednesday she trudged through once more….

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Helpful Books for Post Divorce

Helpful Books for Post Divorce

Already divorced?  Need help?  Looking in books?  Frustrated that they all seem to be about people still married and planning for divorce?  I was there once too. Even if the divorce was your idea, it is not a picnic to live with once all is said and done.  There is baggage.  Emotional, physical, lifestyle, literal baggage/boxes to contend with, the works.  As comforting as it may be that you’re out of that undesirable relationship, you have your work cut out…

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